I'm new to this site and I'm sure this topic has been discussed a million times before but please help me out, I am suffering from the age old killer of relationships - jealousy. And it sucks, it eats away at me inside though I know my agitated feelings have no logic behind them. I have been dating my boyfriend for about three and a half months and he tells me he loves me daily, he is just about always there for me and he is like the guy of my dreams, the one I'm pretty sure could be Mr. Right

I freak out and don't want to talk to him. My policy has always been ignorance is bliss. I just don't want to know how his ex-girlfriends look or to see in a picture a necklace he gave her when they were going out. His policy is that I should know about his past so that I can get to know who he is today. My policy is aaarrgh - I'm constantly comparing myself - I don't look like any of these other chicks, they all have bigger bra sizes, blond beach chick looks.

I know I clearly suffer from low self-esteem problems and I'm from another country and without family etc... while he is Southern California born and raised and has a ton of friends and a great and loving family. No matter how hard I explain he cannot understand the insecurities that eat away at my insides like a cancer, my exaggerated thoughts and ensuing depression. I know he is faithful to me and these women are no threat so why do I constantly compare myself to these exes

Are you really going to let a picture of some old ex-girlfriend really set you off and ruin a great relationship? You’re much smarter than that. Who cares if they have bigger breasts or a different hair color? Work on your self-esteem issues with a therapist, stop comparing yourself to the women in his past who are no longer relevant to him in any way and enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend. A great guy is hard to find and it sounds like you have one